Should I Make Resolutions for 2021?
I’ve been blogging off and on for more than 16 years and the only blog post I’ve consistently written is my New Year’s Resolution Review. In 2020, I didn’t make any resolutions (you can read why HERE) but I still want to review.
First of all, thank God I didn’t make any resolutions. 2020 would have shot them all to pieces anyway. Since March 13, our lives have been both Monopoly Jail and a constant Get Out of Jail Free card. We can’t go anywhere or do anything, so we have permission to do whatever we want and not do anything we don’t want. It’s been weird, as you know.
Most of what I did this year sounds like it was a resolution. I baked sourdough, pretzels, doughnuts, and lots of cookies. I sprouted an avocado tree and made some fig liqueur (and jam and tarts). I finished a large and complicated quilt. I tried watercolors. I tried to learn guitar. I got a chameleon. I self-published a book. I shifted my law practice to the virtual space. I deepened some great friendships and got closer to the family I’ve been locked down with.
The funny part is, if I had resolved to do these things, I wouldn’t have done them. Resolutions are work. Or at least, they feel like work. I have plenty of work, and plenty of things in my life that feel like work, but aren’t compensated or appreciated. Why would I willingly take on more unpaid, unappreciated tasks that don’t bring me joy when I’m doing them?
At the same time, being totally unaccountable feels untethered. I didn’t keep track of my workouts, for example, and as a result, I barely exercise anymore. I didn’t track whether I wrote, so I didn’t write. I’m not saying I have to track the things I like, but when I don’t, they don’t happen. My 2021 resolutions, or non-resolutions, whichever I come up with, needed to be trackable and realistic, and involve things I like. I’ll write again next week when I decide what to do.