I’m not usually a big one for trigger warnings, but I’m putting one here because the upshot of this post is that women shouldn’t have to relive their trauma with every story they hear, and that seems relevant. So, Warning: This post contains a discussion of rape culture and sexual abuse.

Like every woman I know, I have a list. When I was ten, my great uncle would compliment my beauty, particularly my long legs. I thought I was maybe too young to be looked at like that, but I guess he didn’t.

When I was 14, a boy twisted my arm behind my back and pushed me to the ground…