I completely agree! I am the daughter of a gay man, and came across this word in memoirs and blogs, and was really surprised and bothered by it. It surprises me that other families use this word with pride, and this post (along with my prior one) were about reconsidering the word’s use and hoping to replace it with something more positive. I agree we are all children, but as a kid growing up with a gay parent in the 80s, I felt very alone and lacking in connection to other families. I understand people’s desire to make LGBTQ families special with its terminology, and agree that this word is NOT the right way to go.

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