Revising My Ideas About Wellness As a working mother in the United States in 2022, I often hear that I am supposed to be engaged in something called “self-care.” Based on my Instagram feed, self-care involves lavender oil, the Calm app, and self-forgiveness. Or maybe it involves something called “me…

How to use your existing expertise to succeed as a writer. — In the past two months, I have written thirteen pieces for which I was paid at a lawyer’s hourly rate. That’s because I am a labor arbitrator. I hear contract disputes between unions and employers, and write decisions resolving those disputes. …

More Thoughts on Love in Middle Age — Last week, I wrote a post wondering why women my age seemed reluctant to discuss sex. I cloaked my questions by talking about “romance,” but when you’re headed toward menopause (or andropause), the two get conflated with one another. …

Women in their 40s and 50s Don’t Want to Talk about Love — A good friend of mine invited me to a New Year’s Day Zoom call to talk about our 2021 intentions. There were five women there, and I knew them in varying degrees from very close to not-at-all. Our friend had shared a pie chart, sliced by the areas of our…

Keeping Myself Accountable — It’s the first business day of the year. In our family, this is the day for New Year’s Resolutions. It gives me a few days to mull over what is possible versus what is probable and figure out what my approach to resolutions will be. Last year, I didn’t make…

I have ten days to decide. — I’ve been blogging off and on for more than 16 years and the only blog post I’ve consistently written is my New Year’s Resolution Review. In 2020, I didn’t make any resolutions (you can read why HERE) but I still want to review. First of all, thank God I didn’t…

When It Arrives, Here’s How I’m Voting It’s been a few years since I sat down and pulled together a comprehensive ballot guide for my friends and acquaintances but there’s a lot at stake this year, and not just at the federal level so I wanted to get my thoughts…

Take This Quiz! — Amy Cooper is the woman who recently called the police in New York City to report that an “African-American man” was threatening her, when in fact, he was birdwatching, concerned that her unleashed dog was aggravating wildlife. Amy Cooper was blatantly caught violating a posted park regulation and her reaction…

How to Maintain or Improve Spousal Relations in the Age of COVID-19 — Our family of four humans (two middle-aged parents, two teenaged boys) and eight pets (dog, cat, frog, gecko, chameleon and three snakes) have been sheltering in place for eleven days now. The early days of anxiety and uncertainty are behind us; we’ve downgraded to mere worry and boredom. Overall, things…